The Drama Is Clear: No More Distractions… Now What?

Have you ever found yourself, sitting around feeling a little bored, but can’t quite put your finger on why? All you know is that you want to fill this void that you currently have. Work is good, career is good, health is good, and you realize that your mind is not occupied with stuff. Then a light bulb comes on and it’s like “oh crap”, I cleaned house, I have no more DRAMA going on. You think to yourself, that’s good, so what do I do with all this free mental and physical time?

Well I can confess, I found myself feeling like this a few weeks ago. Towards the end of last year, I was working diligently on eliminating anything that caused DRAMA, undo stress or that just didn’t feel right. I was determined not to bring it with me in 2016. Now when I say DRAMA, I don’t mean everything is bad, or it’s something that someone did to you. Although in my case it was a bit of both lol. DRAMA can simply be something that occupies too much space and time in your mind. I’m a very compassionate person even though I’m straightforward and honest, I tend to care about the heart of a person. I normally can sense when something is off kilter and it truly affects my energy. For the most part I do a good job identifying situations that are not ideal for me to be in. However sometimes you are in situations that you cannot avoid, ignore or simply choose not to be around. With that being said, you have to develop other techniques that will still allow you to operate in an environment, that isn’t conducive for you. I struggled with this quite a bit last year. I found myself, thinking about things way too much, wondering how I can fix it or solve the problem. “I’m a fixer by nature…I’m the eldest”. Long story short, I was adding to some of the DRAMA that was going on around me. Simply by not letting go and choosing to have a different perspective, regardless of the outcome.

In my weeks of feeling bored, I realized the DRAMA was just a band-aid. It was only covering up the things I was supposed to do. Check this out, as people we always say, once I clear this up…or if I didn’t have this DRAMA to deal with…or if I had more time. I will do xyz. But honestly ask yourself, would you? I realized the DRAMA was simply a DISTRACTION and once it was gone, subconsciously I was looking for more DISTRACTIONS. For instance, let me catch up on my favorite shows, let me call so and so, let me start dating again, now that I have the time. I was looking for something to fill that void. DRAMA was a DISTRACTION; here I was trying to fill that DISTRACTION with a new DISTRACTION. You may ask why weren’t you doing what you were supposing to do and what where you suppose to be doing? My answer is this, all the things God told me to do that I put on pause. Because I just didn’t have the mental capacity to handle it at the time, because of DRAMA or physical energy to take on, because of DRAMA.  I had allowed the Distraction, possibly out of fear and lack of motivation with some things.

Sometimes we have to ask ourselves why do we allow the DRAMA/DISTRACTIONS to occur? I know we use the word DRAMA so loosely these days, but for the sake of this blog…it simply means DISTRACTION.

So my lesson in all of this, is you honestly can control the DRAMA. As my pastor use to say, birds can fly around your head, it doesn’t mean you have to let them build a nest. When things come up in our lives that our DISTRACTIONS to our purpose, we have to choose to have a different perspective. I had the pleasure of hearing Danita Patterson of Destiny Outreach, speak and she said something similar to what I believe and try to practice, but she articulated so well. I’m not quoting her exactly,  “When you are in situations or things are coming at you, sometimes you have to change your perspective. Lift yourself up and look at it from a different view-point/higher viewpoint.” Think about it, if you are in a situation and it’s staring you in the face, sometimes it’s coming at you so fast that you are not able to see what is around the corner. However if you were standing on a ladder for instance, you will be able to see around the corner and behind the situation…get it…higher viewpoint.

Overall in life we are going to experience DRAMA/DISTRACTIONS, but it is our job not to stay in that place to long. Process what you need to process and get out of it, because you have a journey God want you to take.  I always ask God to show me what I am suppose to learn from a situation, but the key is to learn it and not continue to repeat it. Now that doesn’t mean that a similar situation will not appear again, but if it does you should know how to recognize and move out of it quickly.

Jeremiah 29:

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.